So, I get this call Friday and it’s the friend formerly known as best. She and her dullard husband are in town for the weekend and she wants us to get together. I have plans but we agree to meet for breakfast, but I have a class in the afternoon. We can get together on Sunday, I’m relatively free.
We go to breakfast and I’m charming. The eat rather quickly and spend the last 30 minutes watching me eat. I drop them off at the hotel and we make plans to get together either that evening or the next day.
I leave a message for them that night because my plans were looking to change and I wanted to make sure we still spent time together.
I get a call this morning that because they have decided to leave Monday morning rather than Monday afternoon, she doesn’t think we can get together at all today.
Should I mention they had no plans for how they were going to spend the day? Um weird.
Another thing is she called me out of the blue a couple of weeks ago (because she was bored at work) and made a joking reference to how she didn’t hear from me at work. It was on the tip of my tongue reply that I never heard from her when my grandmother died - the single most traumatic event I’ve endured to date - and she knows my whole family. It was grace alone that allowed me to apologize without being catty, but it still stung like the dickens.
My one friend says I can’t go investing more in the friendship than she wants to give. But I’ve already invested 24 years! It’s hard to just let it go. But she’s made her choice and it’s to put all her energy into her husband.
By the by, am I the only one who thinks it weird that he had NOTHING to say all through breakfast? My friend is all, “Mr Boring* has a collection of knives, don’t you Mr Boring?” “Mr Boring didn’t like the fish at that restaurant.” “Mr Boring thought that presentation was informative.” It was kinda creepy.
So I have to let go of this friendship. I think I’m ready to do that now. But I can’t help from wondering where it went wrong. It couldn’t have been solely because she married and he has no friends, could it? Seriously here, I’m not being facetious - he has no friends. And now, neither does she. She told me about a year ago that all the friends that were at her wedding 3 years ago are strangers to her now. Is that bizarre?
Let it go, Abbie. I can’t fix this. I just have to let it morph into what it will be. Sigh. Gotta go and search for a new best friend now!
(*the names have been changed to protect the boring)