I’ve just heard from two friends I have not been in contact with for a while. One for over a year and the other I have been in touch with now and again, but I haven’t seen her in 15 years and she practically lives in my backyard.
One is recently married. Like two months ago.
The other just filed for divorce after 21 years of marriage.
They don’t know each other but they emailed me at almost the same exact time. Freaky, huh? So it feels weird to write one with congratulations, hit send then write the other with condolences. And I don’t know what to say to the divorcing one. A lot of her friends have been telling her they never liked her husband because he was just mean and cranky all the time, so now she wants to know if I felt the same way. Frankly, I always kind of liked him, but I never looked too deep. I mean they were married and you just get along, y’know?
He did treat her kind of bad though. Not yelling or name calling or anything like that. He just didn’t respect her. But I figured if she was tight with it who was I to butt in? Of course, she just filed and so it is all fresh to her and she is looking for confirmation that she is doing the right thing. I am nothing if not a sympathetic ear.
But it seems just as I get my own life sort of on track, everyone else’s is changing. I’m not sure I can keep up!